What You’re REALLY Hungry For – Season 1, Episode 020

Sexuality: How To Let Go Of Shame And Embrace Pleasure

I spent most of my adult life feeling intense shame around sex.

As I was growing up, I was told that sex was “dirty” and “wrong”.

If I was watching a movie with my family that contained nudity, I was told to “cover my eyes” because there was a “dirty” scene.

I was also told that women who wanted to experience pleasure were “bad” and “easy”.

And I knew that I didn’t want to be one of those people so I hid my desires away.

When they did come up, I felt shame and guilt. Like what I was feeling was wrong somehow.

It also didn’t help that I was a victim of sexual abuse at a young age and wasn’t quite sure how to deal with that.

Was it my fault?

Did I do something I shouldn’t have?

I couldn’t talk to anyone about it so I kept it bottled up inside.

And I wrestled with confusion around my feelings every single day.

Even know as I write this to you, I feel my chest getting tight and my breathing getting faster and shallow.

My palms are sweaty.

It’s not easy to bring up these old feelings.

Maybe you know what I mean?

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

My beliefs were just that – beliefs.

They weren’t true for me just like your beliefs aren’t true for you.

They’re just a distorted way of thinking that doesn’t serve us.

In fact, that way of thinking holds us back in SO many ways.

It’s time to stop this way of thinking.

It’s time to start a new, bigger conversation.

I sat down recently with Dr. Shannon Chavez, a nationally recognized expert on sex and our relationship with it.

The conversation I had with her was fascinating!

It shifted so much for me and I know it will do the same for you.

If you’ve ever struggled with your own feelings around sex – including guilt, shame, and complete confusion, today’s episode of What You’re REALLY Hungry For is a MUST-WATCH!

What You Will Discover In This Episode

• 0:00 – Intro to Sexuality: How To Let Go Of Shame and Embrace Pleasure
• 4:26 – Introducing Dr. Shannon Chavez
• 4:38 – How to get rid of feelings like guilt, shame and naughtiness around your sexuality
• 7:20 – Why it’s so important for women to talk with each other about sex
• 9:38 – How to finally heal and let go of experiences with sexual trauma and abuse
• 12:10 – What to do when you’re in the heat of the moment and sexual shame creeps in
• 13:02 – 3 simple ways to discover what you really enjoy and redefine self-pleasure
• 14:41 – How to communicate what you like with your partner (without embarrassment)
• 16:21 – Why giving yourself permission to talk about sex is everything
• 17:20 – Dr. Chavez reveals what she’s REALLY hungry for (her answer will surprise you!)
• 18:43 – YOUR challenge for the week

After watching this interview, tell me:

What’s the ONE thing you will do this week to let go of sexual shame? Share with me in the comments!

Sexuality: How To Let Go Of Shame And Embrace Pleasure

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About Dr. Shannon

Dr. Shannon Chavez is a nationally recognized expert, therapist, and educator specializing in “all things sexuality” including help for men, women, and couples; the treatment of sexual disorders; sex education for conservative religious and cultural groups; sexual trauma and abuse; and compulsive behaviors surrounding love, romance, and sex. She is a licensed clinical psychologist in California and Arizona  and has a private practice in Los Angeles, California where she works with individuals and couples (both heterosexual and same-sex) to address sexual concerns and build sexual awareness through therapy, coaching, and education.

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Let’s Keep Talking

1. What’s the ONE thing you will do this week to let go of sexual shame?

I know, I know. It’s not an easy thing to do but I believe that together we can do everything! Tell me below!

2. What question do you have about today’s topic?

Post it in the comments below and every Thursday following this episode’s release, I will answer your questions in our What You’re REALLY Hungry For Q&A Episode! You don’t want to miss it, so post your question below!