HOW TO GET RID OF YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS AND MAKE YOUR DREAMS A REALITY
“You can have anything you want in this world as long as you believe it.”
Is this too good to be true?
I absolutely believe that everything is possible, and that you are completely capable of creating the reality of your dreams.
If you can imagine something, you can absolutely achieve it.
In fact, even if you can’t imagine it, it can still happen!
I know because I’ve experienced this myself in a HUGE way AND I’ve seen thousands of others do the same.
A great book to read about creating the life you want is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. It’s absolutely phenomenal and it shifted everything for me.
One of my favorite quotes from this book is, “You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.”
Another great book is Wishes Fulfilled by Wayne Dyer. This book changed my life and allowed me to understand exactly how I can create anything I want in my life – no matter how hard it is or how impossible it might seem.
Wayne himself created a life that he dreamed about from the time he was a child – even when others told him it was impossible.
So, why can’t you?
Chances are you have limiting beliefs trying to spare you from disappointment.
But it’s not just you!
We ALL have limiting beliefs that can keep us from reaching the next level of happiness and fulfillment that’s available to us.
This affects every single one of us in some way, no matter how successful we are!
These limiting beliefs are created in many different ways and at many different times in our lives.
We have a lot of limiting beliefs that we carry over from childhood but there are also limiting beliefs that come about as a result of something that you experienced as you got older.
For example, if you experienced rejection after rejection when looking for a job you might come to develop the limiting belief that what you have to offer isn’t good enough and as a result, you aren’t good enough to be hired.
Or if you’ve tried a diet (and who among us hasn’t) and you weren’t able to stick to the diet for whatever reason, you might develop the limiting belief that you have no willpower and therefore can’t lose weight no matter what you try.
Of course, this simply isn’t true.
And the crazy thing is, most of the time, we don’t even realize we’re doing this!
We do this so much that it just becomes almost a default behavior, and we can’t see the forest for the trees.
“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” — Anthony de Mello
I didn’t grow up with money or a nice lifestyle. In fact, I grew up the opposite of that and as a result, I’ve struggled with what I feel I deserve or am worthy of.
I remember we never had a nice car to drive and when we would pass someone that was, in fact, driving a nice car my mom would always say, “Look at those big shots. Who do they think they are?”
This taught me that only bad people have nice things or money and I didn’t want to be bad so I just wouldn’t have nice things or money.
Of course, this doesn’t make sense but this is simply the way limiting beliefs work.
In my family, we also didn’t have money to buy nice clothes and I remember getting teased at school because I couldn’t afford to wear the designer brands that other kids wore. Now, I didn’t tell my parents this because I didn’t want them to feel bad. I just decided I didn’t deserve nice things and that’s why I didn’t have them.
Now that happened with a lot of things as you would imagine so even to this day,
I have to be hyperaware of my thoughts and feelings at all times to ensure that my limiting beliefs aren’t sabotaging my success, my relationships, and more.
And I get help with this.
For example, I’m one of those people who doesn’t like to ask for help. In fact, I hate it. I feel week and less capable.
But I know this isn’t true. This is just a limiting belief I have.
So, when my partner does something nice for me I will usually say something like, “That’s SO great! Why did you do that?” and his response is always, “Because you deserve it.” Because HE knows I have these limiting beliefs and he supports me in overcoming them daily. So… thank you Zak… you are my hero!
So once you are aware of your limiting beliefs, there is a 7-step process you can use to get rid of them.
7 steps to get rid of your limiting beliefs
1. Realize your limiting beliefs are only fear.
That’s it! They are holding you back because you want to protect yourself – whether you consciously know it or not. I talk a LOT about fear in episode 25 of the What You’re REALLY Hungry For podcast, and I have a great free guide on How To Face and Embrace Fear (click on the link to access the guide).
2. List your beliefs.
This might take awhile so be prepared. AND that’s perfectly ok! Some limiting thoughts might be..
- I’m not good enough.
- I don’t deserve it.
- Others can make money easily but I can’t.
- People don’t find me attractive so I can’t find a partner.
- I’m not important.
- I’m too old to start this.
- I’m too young to start this.
- I have the worst luck.
- Men will always betray me.
- Women will always betray me.
- I’m a terrible speaker.
Keep writing until you can’t write anymore and don’t worry if your list spans two notebooks and then some. The key is to create awareness so these limiting beliefs don’t continue to derail you!
3. Choose one of your limiting beliefs that you believe is keeping you from your dreams in a big way.
It could be anything that you wrote down. Simply choose one to start with.
4. Write down a time that wasn’t true.
For example, if you said “I have the worst luck”, think of a time that amazing things happened to you and write them down. You’re essentially collecting evidence that that limiting belief isn’t true. Dig deep. Find examples to disprove this belief. Write down as many as you can.
5. Write down your new, empowered belief!
It should be the opposite of your original limiting belief. So, in this example, “I have the worst luck” now becomes “I have the best luck and the universe conspires to give me things that make me happy, healthy, and fulfilled!”
6. Repeat this new phrase throughout the day, week, and month until it’s something that you now believe to be true!
And continue to monitor your thoughts. If you feel this old limiting belief coming up again, simply repeat your new empowered belief!
7. Continue doing this work with all of your limiting beliefs.
…so you can move forward and create the health, body, and life you have always wanted!
Commit to this exercise daily — here’s a free guide to help you!
It’s so important to commit to this exercise every single day for every limiting belief you have. To help you work at it daily, I’m offering a free guide you can print out and keep with you at all times so you can go through these steps until you are only left with empowering thoughts! Download the guide, Download the guide, How To Get Rid Of Your Limiting Beliefs In 7 Simple Steps, by clicking here!
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This post was written in response to an audience Q&A for the What You’re REALLY Hungry For episode, Self-Worth: How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others with Celia Ward Wallace. If you want to listen to the entire Q&A with even more content you’ll love, click here or the button below!
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